So it’s been 55 days since my weekend nuclear meltdown, near-death alcohol overdose, hangover from hell and drug-induced psychosis. My ears are ringing, I have no desire to do anything, I have no interest in anything, I’m just empty, empty, empty.
It’s not supposed to be like this. I’m almost 2 months sober, and I keep staring at that empty bottle of Jim Beam wishing I could go back to when it was OK to have a drink, I didn’t do it every day, and it was fun & it didn’t ruin my life. I wish I could get excited about something, anything. It’s my day off. I watched two movies, ate a ton of junk food, smoked some meat, changed the oil. Wow. Can’t wait to brag about my “exciting weekend”. What’d you do this weekend, they’ll say. I’ll reply with a evil grin, “5w30, dude, Mobil 1 all the way!” Ugh.
I now take five prescriptions. Let’s see – reflux, cholesterol, blood pressure, plus I’m still on clonazepam, which my doctor won’t refill so I went to a shrink who gave me number five, Zoloft, for depression. I’m a blob. I’m numb. I don’t even know if I’m here. Really. I have no hope. I can’t imagine being happy. I can’t imagine anything ever changing. I still live in a crappy house, drive a crappy car, spend every dime I have trying to make family’s life better, am in significant Christmas debt, I’m gaining weight, can’t get motivated to do anything, and basically hate life and have nothing to look forward to.
Everyone else is so damn happy for me. Good job, that’s amazing, wow, 55 days, keep at it! It’s nice being around all the time, following my wife with the shopping cart, helping with the dishes, feeding the dog. I still go to work, but I’m a clock-watcher; hardly anybody else is there now, all taking Christmas vacations, but I’m all out of vacation time so I’ve got to work every day except Christmas. I still have the same problems I’ve always had; but now I’ve got nothing to do but sit around and think about them. Every problem seems huge and unsolvable. I can’t even spell without the stupid spell-checker.
So the doctor says once the Zoloft kicks in, about 3 more weeks, I’ll feel totally great. Hmph. We’ll see. I guess I’ve made it this far; might as well stay dry until then, I don’t know. It wouldn’t be the first time that, surprise!, it ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. Almost nothing is. Everything is great when you’re imagining, when you look to the future, see hope, and dreams, and when they crumble and die all around you, there’s nothing left, just an empty shell, robotically dragging itself through daily routines, just make it through the day, just make it until bedtime, just make it to work, just survive, just keep breathing, don’t give up. All based on the glim, dim, fading belief that just maybe it’ll be better. Eventually.
The promised land of sobriety sure looked grand from my drunken valley, but so far it feels more like a swamp than a majestic forest. Just sludge and mud and bugs and heat and nauseating monotony. This has got to get better somehow, right? I mean, I’ve made everyone else happy, being sober – it’s bound to get back to me, eventually, right? There’s got to be something for me in this life; after I’ve given it my all, sacrificed and slaved and worked and sacrificed some more; there has to be something, some prize, some reward, some compensation for giving my energy and resources to my family and taking nothing for myself. Because it just feels horrible, when you do the right thing, and everyone is happy, except me. I just don’t know. I have a sliver of hope. I can stay off the booze, pretty sure I can do that, but then what? And why? So I can work? So I can keep fixing my old car? So everyone will have their slave, the family fix-it man and bottomless money machine?
Life is just crap. No wonder I started drinking. Sober, it’s just so bland, boring and tasteless. I sure hope it will get better. I just has to…